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    • How to deal with underwhelming erection quality?
      How to deal with underwhelming erection quality?“S”, a man from England, asks: I have entered a fairly new relationship and I’m having great sex, we where both quite frigid and my girlfriend told me she never came before having sex with me. The issue is, I don’t have a problem getting it up, but I have a problem keeping it up! Half a year ago I stopped masterbating  and watching Porn, and I would of thought this would of really helped me out in the bedroom. But for some reason, I find myself at half mast. Just wondering if you had any ideas to help me out?   So many guys ask about not getting hard enough. It’s a big deal for a lot of guys. I’ve also experienced it myself and healed it (my sex life had become mundane and I couldn’t super hard). There are a few main categories that half mast problems can fall into.  Note: I do NOT advocate medication. I only advocate life changes that can create results. Not turned on enough The single most common reason that I’ve seen is because the guy’s mind isn’t turned on enough. LOTS of things contribute to that. For example, not being in love with the woman, a feeling that you are doing something wrong (like a guy who is cheating on his wife), being exhausted, playing a role that you “should” play rather than doing what you really want to do in life, not being turned on enough by your partner or the sex or her energy isn’t hot enough to get you super hard. These are addressed by identifying what specific things DO get you super hard and what things don’t, and then making and implementing a plan to change your sex-life to bring in more of the things that get you super hard and have less of the stuff that doesn’t. That can be as simple as watching porn while you have sex with your partner or exploring a fantasy together, but you need to have the communication tools to help you bring them up in a way that doesn’t trigger your partner. (This is the category I fell into personally, and I healed it by changing my sex life with my wife so we did things that made me super hard and really got me off). Use it or lose it Another main category is losing erection quality because of physical anatomical degradation. i.e. use it or lose it. Guys who don’t have regular erections and regular ejaculations lose penis size and erection quality. If the pc muscle loses it’s strength then the erection and ejaculations get weaker. This can be addressed by simple penis exercises to strengthen the muscles and restore elasticity to the tissues. Within a month you see real serious results by doing 5-20 minutes of exercises 3 times per week. The flip side is that you can hurt yourself if you do the exercises wrong or too vigorously, so having a coach is really a good idea! You don’t want to hurt yourself down there! Internalized sexual shame The last big catergory that I have seen has to do with internalized sexual shame. What I mean is that sometimes sexual shame gets stored inside our body and results in physical malfunction. For example feeling that my penis is too small and is not powerful enough to be satisfying for my partner can literally result in muscles in the pelvis locking up, atrophying, becoming painful, and ceasing to function. Some guys end up with killer pain in their groin or pelvis that doctors can’t release. For these a combination of physical therapy or a specific stretching regiment with emotional clearing work can release the internalized shame from the body tissues and restore normal healthy functioning. Make a positive change So, those things said, there are definitely other things that also can contribute, but these are the biggest reasons I have seen. The great thing is that these can be dealt with and healed with simple methods just by changing what you do in your life. So many guys live in mediocre sex lives and never look for a way to make it better, so good for you for taking a step to improve your sex life!!! If any of this resonates with you and you have any more questions or would like any help, just let me know. I’m happy to help. Thanks again for asking!!! I wish more guys would be as brave as you!   Ready To Take Your Love-Life To The Next Level? Enter your name and email address below to receive occasional special insider content!   All the best, Kris Stone Success! Now check your email (and spam folder) to confirm your subscription. There was an error submitting your subscription. Please try again. Email Address Get Some! Please Share This Post! Click a button below to share this post on social media F*cking popups! Aren't popups annoying! But, if you sign up, I'll send you occasional techniques, communication tools & sizzling hot ways to rekindle the fire in your relationship! -Kris Stone Success! 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    • How to handle a relationship with someone that is bisexual?
      How to handle a relationship with someone that is bisexual?“G”, a man from Massachusetts, asks: How do you think it’s best to handle a relationship with someone that is bisexual?   I recommend complete transparency and honesty! Especially about sexual desires, and especially at the very beginning of the relationship. Say what you want to have/do and what you dont want to have/do and say it without guild or shame or expectation, and let the chips fall where they may. Sit through any emotional reaction that comes up and just ask to have a conversation (mental/rational) about it. Share your complete sexual history And I’d share each others complete sexual history (but not in gorey detail unless you both get off on that) so you both know exactly what you are getting into.  It builds trust that you can count on the other person even with the hard to talk about conversations... Bringing up the hard stuff If you need to know how to bring something difficult up, you can watch my video on saying the unsaid:   If you’d like any more help, I’d be happy to speak with you and better-focus my advice for your specific situation. If you have questions or want to inquire about coaching, please get in touch. Ready To Take Your Love-Life To The Next Level? Enter your name and email address below to receive occasional special insider content!   All the best, Kris Stone Success! Now check your email (and spam folder) to confirm your subscription. There was an error submitting your subscription. Please try again. Email Address Get Some! Please Share This Post! Click a button below to share this post on social media F*cking popups! Aren't popups annoying! But, if you sign up, I'll send you occasional techniques, communication tools & sizzling hot ways to rekindle the fire in your relationship! -Kris Stone Success! Now check your email to confirm your subscription. There was an error submitting your subscription. Please try again. First Name Email Address We use this field to detect spam bots. If you fill this in, you will be marked as a spammer. Get Some! Powered by ConvertKit... Read more...
    • Can Women Have Instant Orgasms?
      Can Women Have Instant Orgasms?“W”, a man from Illinois, aks: Is it possible to make a woman have instant multiple orgasms to the point of orgasmic eruptions? If so how and are there different ways of doing so?   Yes it’s possible, but not in most situations! Usually for a woman to be able to have instant orgasms she needs to have her mind turned on first.  If her brain is aroused, then she might be able to reach instant orgasm with a hot fast quickie done right. But if her brain isn’t turned on, then it’s going to take time to warm her up. Plan ahead So if you plan ahead a bit, then you can foster situations where you get her brain turned on in advance, and then when you have a chance to have sex you have a better chance of getting her to have instant orgasms and ejaculations. Dont’ use your cock If those are your specific goals, then I recommend not using your cock. You will be more able to precisely control the stimulation with your fingers and hands and tongue.  I know from wonderful personal experience that by inuendo and dirty talk and sending sexts and naughty pictures to my partner, I can get her mind turned on and get her hot for me. Then when we have a chance for a quickie, if I give her a hand job and go down on her at the same time, I can much more easily get her to come instantly and have ejaculations. You need to understand how to get her mind turned on, and then you need to understand her anatomy: the g-spot and clitoris most of all–and then be able to let go of the need for yourself to have an orgasm and just give them to her.  You can have some later after she’s come a half a dozen times on your mouth and hands. I recommend using your fingers inside her to massage her g-spot whie your tongue massages her clit, and then when she gets super hot switching to the ejaculation stroke with your hand to push her over the edge.  Can probably make her come in less than two minutes this way. Female Ejaculation Stroke If you don’t know the female ejaculation stroke, you can watch a sexually explicit instructional video on tube8 here. For further help Any of these things could be a challenge to bring up, so again if you’d like to talk I’d be happy to speak with you and better-focus my advice for your specific situation. If you have questions or want to inquire about coaching, please get in touch. Ready To Take Your Love-Life To The Next Level? Enter your name and email address below to receive occasional special insider content!   All the best, Kris Stone Success! Now check your email (and spam folder) to confirm your subscription. There was an error submitting your subscription. Please try again. Email Address Get Some! Please Share This Post! Click a button below to share this post on social media F*cking popups! Aren't popups annoying! But, if you sign up, I'll send you occasional techniques, communication tools & sizzling hot ways to rekindle the fire in your relationship! -Kris Stone Success! Now check your email to confirm your subscription. There was an error submitting your subscription. Please try again. First Name Email Address We use this field to detect spam bots. If you fill this in, you will be marked as a spammer. Get Some! Powered by ConvertKit... Read more...
    • How to help husband orgasm / have more sex
      How to help husband orgasm / have more sex“O”, a married woman aks: It is tough for my husband to ejaculate with me. He seems to prefer to masterbate. I am left feeling unsatisfied because I want to have more sex. ?   It can be hard to overcome orgasm roadblocks, but here are three great ideas to get you started! Turning on the mind There can be multiple intersecting issues at play, and I am making no assumptions or judgements here about you or him. It sounds like his mind needs to be turned on more though. The mind is the biggest erogenous zone for any human being.  If you aren’t able to explore fantasies in your relationship with each other, it may indicate that you could benefit from opening up the lines of communication between you to explore mentally exciting things with each other.  That said, fantasies that please one person may shock or turn off the other, so they need to be brought up properly to reduce the risk of shock or insult and increase the chance of an empowering & bonding outcome. In my past I have personally experienced many times when my wife could not make me come.  I had a lot of things on my mind.  We didn’t feel like we were emotionally very close at the time, and I was having thoughts about wanting to date other people….my mind was elsewhere. So getting his mind turned on will help him to get to a level of arousal where you can make him come more easily. Type of touch Another thing that might be a contributing factor is the type of touch that you are using.  Again, I’m not making any judgements, but I know from personal experience that sometimes my wife just doesn’t touch me “right”.  What is “right”?  It’s different for each person.  AND it changes from one day to the next! I would recommend opening a dialog about what kind of touch is most enjoyable for him. For example, if you have a regular parttern of just doing one type of movement (like maybe for example’s sake a pile-driver in & out  repeatedly very fast), that might not be the right kind to “get him off”.  The best errogenous zone of the cock is the frenulum, and massaging it, vibrating it, and licking it with flicks can all lead to an orgams better than a pile driver on guys who can’t come easily.  And of course there is the magic spot of the prostate that is almost a guaranteed orgasmic explosion! Couples Porn You know, I’ll share a personal experience with you, if you don’t mind.  My wife and I really get a HUGE sexual charge from watching high-quality “feminist” couples porn together.  When we’ve had troubles getting excited enough to have wonderful sex because life is full and hectic and the worries are overwhelming, it can help us to get into a highly aroused state.  I’d recommend checking out lustcinema.com for any of Erika Lust’s work. She has lots of 20-minute long videos based on real life experiences submitted by real people in the “xconfession” series. For further help Any of these things could be a challenge to bring up, so again if you’d like to talk I’d be happy to speak with you and better-focus my advice for your specific situation. If you have questions or want to inquire about coaching, please get in touch. Ready To Take Your Love-Life To The Next Level? Enter your name and email address below to receive occasional special insider content!   All the best, Kris Stone Success! Now check your email (and spam folder) to confirm your subscription. There was an error submitting your subscription. Please try again. Email Address Get Some! Please Share This Post! Click a button below to share this post on social media F*cking popups! Aren't popups annoying! But, if you sign up, I'll send you occasional techniques, communication tools & sizzling hot ways to rekindle the fire in your relationship! -Kris Stone Success! Now check your email to confirm your subscription. There was an error submitting your subscription. Please try again. First Name Email Address We use this field to detect spam bots. If you fill this in, you will be marked as a spammer. Get Some! Powered by ConvertKit... Read more...
    • Is A Curved-Down Penis Better For Sex?
      Is A Curved-Down Penis Better For Sex?“M”, a man from Algeria writes: I have a curved down penis. Is it better for sex, and if so, what positions?   The downward curved penis is different A curved down penis is better for the woman in some sex positions, but not other sex positions. It just has it’s own different benefits & drawbacks. Recommended intercourse positions The downward curve can be used to hit her g-spot and a-spot during doggy style and reverse cowgirl.  You must be careful not to hit her cervix too much. So I recommend reverse cowgirl position because the woman will be in control of the position and can get the tip of your penis on her g-spot without hurting her cervix. This uses your downward curve to its best benefit for her pleasure. Deep Throating The other thing that a curved down penis is better than a straight or curved up penis is for deep-throat blowjobs. It’s easier for your partner to open her throat and deep throat a curved down penis. A curved up penis can trigger her gag reflex very easily, while a curved down penis slides down the back of the throat easier. Straightening a downward curved penis If you want to straighten your penis permanently, you will need to do some exercises called jelqs. Over the course of a few months you can straighten your penis with jelqing exercise, but you must be careful not to hurt your penis. It is best to have a coach to help you and make sure that you do not hurt your penis.  If you have questions or want to inquire about coaching, please get in touch. Ready To Take Your Love-Life To The Next Level? Enter your name and email address below to receive occasional special insider content!   All the best, Kris Stone Success! Now check your email (and spam folder) to confirm your subscription. There was an error submitting your subscription. Please try again. Email Address Get Some! Please Share This Post! Click a button below to share this post on social media... Read more...
    • Looking to inspire my husband
      Looking to inspire my husband“B”, a married mother of a toddler from Canada writes: I am looking to “wake up” my sex life. My partner and I have been together for 8 year.. And sex has become routine…. As in we do the same ole thing everytime. I am have a higher sex drive… Looking to inspire my husband… You know, that my wife and I went through that very thing when we had a child when we had been together for 8 years.   I am happy to say that we came through it and are now more in love and more loving and sexual with each other than before. The Secret That Saved Us I’ll share with you the secret that saved us. It was being honest with each other about what we wanted and didn’t want.  That may sound simple or obvious, but it was neither to us!  It took many forms, not the least of which was sharing our fantasies and sexual desires with each other. I started it because I, like you, had the higher sex drive and was more unsatisfied with our sex-life than she was.  So I used some really powerful communication tools (that I can share with you if you are interested) that allowed me to bring up my sexual dissatisfaction and fantasies in a way that helped her to receive them well without being threatened or shocked or anything. Opening the Door Bringing them up to talk about one time didnt solve the problem, but opening the door to allow ourselves to have these conversations in our lives together easily is what solved the problem because it allowed us to explore a new side to ourselves. That brought us closer together by bringing us more intimacy and sexual fulfillment! Ready To Take Your Love-Life To The Next Level? Enter your name and email address below to receive occasional special insider content!   All the best, Kris Stone Success! Now check your email (and spam folder) to confirm your subscription. There was an error submitting your subscription. Please try again. Email Address Get Some! Please Share This Post! Click a button below to share this post on social media... Read more...

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