How to handle a relationship with someone that is bisexual?

“G”, a man from Massachusetts, asks:

How do you think it’s best to handle a relationship with someone that is bisexual?

 

I recommend complete transparency and honesty!

Especially about sexual desires, and especially at the very beginning of the relationship. Say what you want to have/do and what you dont want to have/do and say it without guild or shame or expectation, and let the chips fall where they may. Sit through any emotional reaction that comes up and just ask to have a conversation (mental/rational) about it.

Share your complete sexual history

And I’d share each others complete sexual history (but not in gorey detail unless you both get off on that) so you both know exactly what you are getting into.  It builds trust that you can count on the other person even with the hard to talk about conversations...

Bringing up the hard stuff

If you need to know how to bring something difficult up, you can watch my video on saying the unsaid:


 

If you’d like any more help, I’d be happy to speak with you and better-focus my advice for your specific situation. If you have questions or want to inquire about coaching, please get in touch.

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Can Women Have Instant Orgasms?

“W”, a man from Illinois, aks:

Is it possible to make a woman have instant multiple orgasms to the point of orgasmic eruptions? If so how and are there different ways of doing so?

 

Yes it’s possible, but not in most situations!

Usually for a woman to be able to have instant orgasms she needs to have her mind turned on first.  If her brain is aroused, then she might be able to reach instant orgasm with a hot fast quickie done right. But if her brain isn’t turned on, then it’s going to take time to warm her up.

Plan ahead

So if you plan ahead a bit, then you can foster situations where you get her brain turned on in advance, and then when you have a chance to have sex you have a better chance of getting her to have instant orgasms and ejaculations.

Dont’ use your cock

If those are your specific goals, then I recommend not using your cock. You will be more able to precisely control the stimulation with your fingers and hands and tongue.  I know from wonderful personal experience that by inuendo and dirty talk and sending sexts and naughty pictures to my partner, I can get her mind turned on and get her hot for me. Then when we have a chance for a quickie, if I give her a hand job and go down on her at the same time, I can much more easily get her to come instantly and have ejaculations.

You need to understand how to get her mind turned on, and then you need to understand her anatomy: the g-spot and clitoris most of all–and then be able to let go of the need for yourself to have an orgasm and just give them to her.  You can have some later after she’s come a half a dozen times on your mouth and hands. I recommend using your fingers inside her to massage her g-spot whie your tongue massages her clit, and then when she gets super hot switching to the ejaculation stroke with your hand to push her over the edge.  Can probably make her come in less than two minutes this way.

Female Ejaculation Stroke

If you don’t know the female ejaculation stroke, you can watch a sexually explicit instructional video on tube8 here.

For further help

Any of these things could be a challenge to bring up, so again if you’d like to talk I’d be happy to speak with you and better-focus my advice for your specific situation. If you have questions or want to inquire about coaching, please get in touch.

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How to help husband orgasm / have more sex

“O”, a married woman aks:

It is tough for my husband to ejaculate with me. He seems to prefer to masterbate. I am left feeling unsatisfied because I want to have more sex. ?

 

It can be hard to overcome orgasm roadblocks, but here are three great ideas to get you started!

Turning on the mind

There can be multiple intersecting issues at play, and I am making no assumptions or judgements here about you or him.

It sounds like his mind needs to be turned on more though. The mind is the biggest erogenous zone for any human being.  If you aren’t able to explore fantasies in your relationship with each other, it may indicate that you could benefit from opening up the lines of communication between you to explore mentally exciting things with each other.  That said, fantasies that please one person may shock or turn off the other, so they need to be brought up properly to reduce the risk of shock or insult and increase the chance of an empowering & bonding outcome.

In my past I have personally experienced many times when my wife could not make me come.  I had a lot of things on my mind.  We didn’t feel like we were emotionally very close at the time, and I was having thoughts about wanting to date other people….my mind was elsewhere.

So getting his mind turned on will help him to get to a level of arousal where you can make him come more easily.

Type of touch

Another thing that might be a contributing factor is the type of touch that you are using.  Again, I’m not making any judgements, but I know from personal experience that sometimes my wife just doesn’t touch me “right”.  What is “right”?  It’s different for each person.  AND it changes from one day to the next! I would recommend opening a dialog about what kind of touch is most enjoyable for him. For example, if you have a regular parttern of just doing one type of movement (like maybe for example’s sake a pile-driver in & out  repeatedly very fast), that might not be the right kind to “get him off”.  The best errogenous zone of the cock is the frenulum, and massaging it, vibrating it, and licking it with flicks can all lead to an orgams better than a pile driver on guys who can’t come easily.  And of course there is the magic spot of the prostate that is almost a guaranteed orgasmic explosion!

Couples Porn

You know, I’ll share a personal experience with you, if you don’t mind.  My wife and I really get a HUGE sexual charge from watching high-quality “feminist” couples porn together.  When we’ve had troubles getting excited enough to have wonderful sex because life is full and hectic and the worries are overwhelming, it can help us to get into a highly aroused state.  I’d recommend checking out lustcinema.com for any of Erika Lust’s work. She has lots of 20-minute long videos based on real life experiences submitted by real people in the “xconfession” series.

For further help

Any of these things could be a challenge to bring up, so again if you’d like to talk I’d be happy to speak with you and better-focus my advice for your specific situation. If you have questions or want to inquire about coaching, please get in touch.

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Is A Curved-Down Penis Better For Sex?

“M”, a man from Algeria writes:

I have a curved down penis. Is it better for sex, and if so, what positions?

 

The downward curved penis is different

A curved down penis is better for the woman in some sex positions, but not other sex positions. It just has it’s own different benefits & drawbacks.

Recommended intercourse positions

The downward curve can be used to hit her g-spot and a-spot during doggy style and reverse cowgirl.  You must be careful not to hit her cervix too much. So I recommend reverse cowgirl position because the woman will be in control of the position and can get the tip of your penis on her g-spot without hurting her cervix. This uses your downward curve to its best benefit for her pleasure.

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Deep Throating

The other thing that a curved down penis is better than a straight or curved up penis is for deep-throat blowjobs. It’s easier for your partner to open her throat and deep throat a curved down penis. A curved up penis can trigger her gag reflex very easily, while a curved down penis slides down the back of the throat easier.

Straightening a downward curved penis

If you want to straighten your penis permanently, you will need to do some exercises called jelqs. Over the course of a few months you can straighten your penis with jelqing exercise, but you must be careful not to hurt your penis. It is best to have a coach to help you and make sure that you do not hurt your penis.  If you have questions or want to inquire about coaching, please get in touch.

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