I’m a Sex educator and relationship skills teacher and author of Conscious Cock: The Healthy Masculinity Manual for Men (about to be released world-wide by CCB Publishing). I work with men and couples to help them get what they really want out of their relationship and sex life.
When I was growing up I lived through a total of seven divorces. Through them I learned the patterns that people repeat that cause their relationships to fail in heartache, apathy, abuse or dysfunction, and I resolved to find solutions to those patterns so that I wouldn’t suffer the same relationship fate.
I have spent over twenty years studying communication, relationship technologies, intimacy tools and sex education. Without role models of healthy relationships to look to, I had to develop my own thesis on relationships and my own framework for relationship success. I basically had to become the healthy-masculine man that I never had in my life as a child.
One thing I’ve learned is that most people are like me and have never had a positive relationship role model to look up to and copy, and consequently they just keep repeating the same dysfunctional relationship patterns that they see all around them. But successful strategies do exist and aren’t hard to learn–they just need someone who is actually “walking the talk” to teach them the tools. The tools that I’ve developed and teach are the very same ones I use every day to keep my 15 year marriage not just alive, but actually vibrant and engaged, and honestly instead of getting stale and more challenging over time, every day it gets hotter and easier!
The reason I do my work is because we are all looking for role models of that kind of relationship! You can’t be what you can’t see! I believe that the most powerful way I can help make the world a better place is by helping people to learn how to be successful in their relationships and sex-life! Healthy relationships inspire and heal everyone they touch, causing positive ripples to radiate through everyone they encounter.
Maybe you have lived through a divorce, cheated or been cheated on, lived in a relationship where your needs aren’t being met or the fire dwindled and you ended up in a jail of quiet desperation. Maybe you’re like I was: surrounded by people who were struggling in relationship–fighting and never truly happy and you never had a couple to look to and say “I want to be like them!”
There’s a saying that “you don’t know what you don’t know”. There is a pathway to getting what you really want in your relationship and sex life, but you need to learn the tools that will take you there…the tools that no one around you has bothered to learn, and if you learn them you can make your relationship dreams a reality.
With each relationship tool you acquire you improve your ability be truly successful in a relationship, whether you are single and looking for true love or have been married for 20 years! You can’t build a luxury mansion using tools from the stone age, and today’s relationships are more complicated than any other time in history! True sexual and relationship happiness is possible, and a deeply meaningful and successful relationship is one of the most valuable things that you can have in life!
What I Do
I help people get what they really want in their love lives so that they have more successful relationships and fewer broken hearts & homes.
My second book, Conscious Cock: The Empowered Sexuality Manual for Men, is about to be released by CCB publishing. It’s a self-help guide for men to uplevel their relationship success-rate through healthy masculinity, sex education & intimacy tools. For more information or to get on the waiting list, drop me a line.
My offerings help people alter the course of their relationships, exit unhealthy patterns and replace them with new structures, perspectives & practices that help them achieve freedom and reach their realtionship goals.
Join the Conscious Cock Brotherhood
If you are a man in a relationship with a woman and you want to make your relationship better, get more of what you really want from your sex life and become a better man in the process, then you are in the right place. Going it alone without support from other like-minded men only makes your process and journey longer and harder.
If you want to get support and solidarity with other men who are on the path of learning and embodying integrity and healthy masculinity while embracing our sexual drives and needs, then you are in the right place.
I invite you to join the community in one of two levels. We offer free access to our private secret facebook group to any man who wants to join and has a comittment to supporting himself and the others in the group on our journey. To join the group, please complete this quick application here:
For men who wish to have a deeper dive, I offer weekly group coaching calls in a virtual men’s circle using Zoom video conferencing software. This men’s circle is a powerful way to get support, solidarity, acceptance, advice and connection with other good men. The groups are accessible from computer, tablet or smartphone with a webcam and microphone and internet connection. Spaces are limited to eight men per group maximum. Cost is $100 per month, and you can find more information and apply here:
Great informative workshop! Vibrant energy and very inspiring!
Top shelf, cutting edge information. Enlightened and aware in so many areas…sacred sexuality, communication tools, experiential learning, and to me, a form of today’s shamanism.
Kris is an incredible communicator. His passion around healthy relationships & creating a sex-positive space is palpable & a pleasure to be around! He speaks from experience of what doesn’t work & what does. His own beautiful marriage is a testament to his passion, purpose & practice.
Kris inspired me by confirming that I can change my mind and say “no” with no need for explanation!
Kris opens up important dialog and provides effective tools for communication and relationship strengthening. He is very passionate and therefore makes others interested and comfortable about these topics.
Kris is amazing! He has great relationship communication tools. Really helpful and needed for long lasting happy relationships. He is so comfortable talking about sex and “taboo topics.” It makes me feel more comfortable to go inward and/or experience deeper tools within myself…leaving me excited to try these tools and new perspectives with my partner. I am looking forward to more!
I really enjoyed Kris’ workshop on boundaries & consent. There were some points that he made that really clicked with me. Changing our perception of “no” is one of them. Thank you very much for your time & enthusiasm, Kris!
Kris provides real life solutions to communication problems between couples after a lifetime of experience being raised by a single mother who went through seven divorces. His workshop was super inspiring and lit a fire in me to finally aquire such powerful tools to help my relationships!
I wanted to thank you for your work at Envision! I’m a Cuddle Therapist in Austin (http://thecuddlecottage.com), and your cuddle party on Saturday night was the first cuddle event I’ve attended outside of “work”. I had a blast, so I took your relationship class the following day, and really enjoyed the easy-to-follow steps you gave for dealing with communication issues in relationships. I just wanted to let you know how appreciative I am of your workshops, and hope to see you teach in Texa…
Learning about Love Languages from Kris was one of the most useful relationship tools I’ve encountered. Reflecting on it and practicing it in my relationship greatly deepened our connection and the quality of our intimacy and time together.